Clarifying that someone understands your perspective and you’re on the same page is part of a normal conversation, particularly before making a major decision about having a child together. You’re getting hung up on the word 'told' to build a strawman argument which places equal blame on both partners for one partner’s selfish behaviour. Why did the husband agree to have a child when he clearly wasn’t ready to make the sacrifices? Why does he do nothing to ease his wife’s burden but instead contributes to it? Why can’t he manage the basic task of keeping the fridge stocked and what does he spend all his money on when he contributes so little to the household? These are the real issues here.