I'm not telling you to accept anything. It's called having a debate. I reject your interpretation because I think it's incredibly self-serving and designed to deflect responsibility. The article is specifically about the husband's inability to fulfill his side of the bargain, despite promising he would take on his share of the load. The author doesn't have to include herself in the statement because it's not about her.

You say words matter but it's funny how you can ignore all the others pointing to his selfishness, and hone in on the single one that (you claim) supports your point of view.

I really shouldn't expect anything more from a person who believes no one 'deserves' basic respect and consideration in a relationship.

How dare she ask to be treated with respect? She must have known what he was like all along! Clearly it’s her fault so why should he have to change? Doesn’t she realise she doesn’t ‘deserve’ anything in this relationship?