One of the hallmarks of a narcissist is the ability to convince their victims they are 100% responsible for the narc’s happiness. Pets are masters at this with their cute, helpless demaonour and soulful eyes.
In the beginning the love bombing is intoxicating as they shower you with affection, and let you know you’re the best thing that ever happened to them. But the narcissist is fickle and there are always signs they don’t value or respect you.
One of the biggest warning signs is destruction of your property. Narcissists have a keen knack for desecrating your most precious possessions, but you forgive them because ‘they don’t know any better,’ or they ‘couldn’t help themselves.’
This is what the narcissist counts on as they reel you in and suck the energy out of your life. As their neediness escalates, you find yourself waiting hand and foot on them and ignoring your own needs. You sacrifice endlessly but as soon as someone more interesting comes along they’ll abandon you to chase after the shiny new toy. Of course they come back. Sometimes they’ll beg forgiveness, but a lot of the time they won’t even notice your hurt. They’ll carry on as if nothing has happened.
The narcissist hates to see you take any time for yourself. They may be in the other room having a nap, but as soon as they hear you ease yourself into a chair after a long day, they’ll be wide awake, demanding that you entertain them. They want to dominate you completely and obliterate your sense of self, so you exist only to serve them.
Narcissists like to push boundaries and see how much they can get away with. You might think you’re too smart to fall for their tricks, but they have a way of exhausting you to the point where you’ll do anything for the sake of some peace. Life for them is a constant power play and you’re part of the game.
When you start to see through them, the narcissist will turn on the charm and convince you all over again that they are the most lovable being on the planet. You ride a constant roller coaster of emotions, from anger and frustration to love and forgiveness, and back again.
Does any of this sound familiar?
Life with a narcissist is far from easy, and that’s why it’s so shocking that many people have one (or several) living in their home, and they don’t even realise it.
Pets are not the benign, helpless creatures we imagine them to be. The extent of their manipulation and selfishness is almost limitless. And yet we continue to harbour them and give ourselves to them, day after day. Why? Because we are gluttons for punishment who can’t resist a pair of shiny eyes and a wet nose.
It doesn’t get much more co-dependent than pet-owner relationships. I believe these relationships represent the next frontier in the exposure of narcissism and its insidious effects on society.
**Please note this article in no way intends to disrespect victims of narcissistic abuse. It’s a satire of the narcissism industry.