This isn't about you and me personally so I really wish you'd stop bringing it back to whether you'd find me attractive. It's very telling that you assume I want you to want me or that I must have experienced a bad relationship ( I repeat, happily married for over 2 decades). You seem to like putting women into simple categories.

If you're going to share your views with loaded gendered comments about women being able to talk about their physical preferences for men without judgement then expect blowback from women who know this is not the case.